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Monday, 04 February 2008 |
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The Deputy Sheriff's Association of Michigan recommends these safety tips from the National Center for Missing or Exploited Children for keeping our Michigan kids safe:
- Make sure you know where each of your children is at all times. Know
your children’s friends and be clear with your children about
the places and homes they may visit. Make it a rule for your children
to check-in with you when they arrive at or depart from a particular
location and when there is a change in plans. You should also let them
know when you’re running late or if your plans have changed to
show the rule is for safety purposes and not being used to “check
up” on them.
- Never
leave children unattended in a vehicle, whether it is running or
not. Children should never be left unsupervised or allowed to spend
time alone or with others in vehicles as the potential dangers to
their safety outweigh any perceived convenience or “fun.” Remind
children to never hitchhike, approach a vehicle,
or engage in a conversation with anyone within a vehicle they do
not know and trust. Also they should never go anywhere with anyone
without first getting your permission.
- Be involved in your children’s activities. As an active participant
you’ll have a better opportunity to observe how the adults in
charge interact with your children. If you are concerned about anyone’s
behavior, take it up with the sponsoring organization.
- Listen to your children. Pay attention if they tell you they don’t
want to be with someone or go somewhere. This may be an indication
of more than a personality conflict or lack of interest in the activity
or event.
- Notice when anyone shows one or all of your children a great deal
of attention or begins giving them gifts. Take the time to talk to
your children about the person and find out why that person is acting
in this way.
- Teach your children they have the right to say NO to any unwelcome,
uncomfortable, or confusing touch or actions by others and to get out
of those situations as quickly as possible. If avoidance is not an
option, children should be taught to kick, scream, and resist. When
in such a situation, teach them to loudly yell, “This person
is not my father/mother/guardian,” and then immediately tell
you if this happens. Reassure them you’re there to help and it
is okay to tell you anything.
- Be sensitive to any changes in your children’s behavior or
attitude. Encourage open communication and learn how to be an active
listener. Look and listen to small cues and clues indicating something
may be troubling your children, because children are not always comfortable
disclosing disturbing events or feelings. This may be because they
are concerned about your reaction to their problems. If your children
do confide problems to you, strive to remain calm, reassuring, and
nonjudgmental. Listen compassionately to their concern, and work with
them to get the help they need to resolve the problem.
- Be sure to screen babysitters and caregivers. Many jurisdictions
now have a public registry allowing parents and guardians to check
out individuals for prior criminal records and sex offenses. Check
references with other families who have used the caregiver or babysitter.
Once you have chosen the caregiver, drop in unexpectedly to see how
your children are doing. Ask your children how the experience with
the caregiver was, and carefully listen to the responses.
- Practice basic safety skills with your children. Make an outing to
a mall or park a “teachable” experience in which your children
practice checking with you, using pay telephones, going to the restroom
with a friend, and locating the adults who may be able to help if they
need assistance. Remember, allowing your children to wear clothing
or carry items in public on which their name is displayed may bring
about unwelcome attention from inappropriate people looking for a way
to start a conversation with your children.
- Remember there is no substitute for your attention and supervision.
Being available and taking time to really know and listen to your children
helps build feelings of safety and security.
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